On picking your battles

Warning:  This post is baby-centered, so if you hate mommy blogs you might want to skip this one.

After a two hour battle trying to get Rylan to take a nap, I finally gave up.  She was tired.  She was cranky.  She wanted another teta after having had one not even two hours before.

I’m constantly fighting an inner battle trying to decide whether to potty train, take away the bottle, move her to her own room, yada yada on MY terms, or just help her transition to all those things when she’s ready.

I would love to get a full night’s sleep, but I guess when you decide to have a baby, you kind of know that you’re throwing that out the window for about 4-5 years because even when the baby finally decides to sleep through the night, you are on constant watch that they’re ok, that they don’t wake up, that they’re still sound asleep.

The bottle is a whole ‘nother issue.  I worry about tooth decay, then I worry that she’s too young for me to be taking her bottle away.  She’s only 1 1/2, after all.  Maybe when she’s two.  If she didn’t get up at 2 every morning asking for one, then maybe it wouldn’t be such an issue, but she does, so it is.

And then she started sleeping through the night for a little bit and I missed waking up and putting her back to bed with a teta and a kiss and snuggling her in her blanket.

It’s a no win situation.

I guess I’ll just enjoy her being my baby while I still can.  After all, if I learned anything with my thirteen and nine year olds, it’s that they grow up way too fast.

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4 comments

  1. I remember these battles very well. The internal one’s. It took me forever to get N to stop sucking his thumb. He did it at night in his sleep until like 7. Maybe older.

    My best advice, not that you are asking ;-), is doing just what you are doing. Picking your battles and enjoying the time they are small. It goes by so damned fast.

    1. See, I don’t remember many battles about these issues with my oldest two kids. In my mind, they were both potty trained and off bottles by 1 1/2. She’s also been regressing a bit because of the new baby, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t love her falling asleep in my arms from me having to rock her to sleep. So yes, I’ll just keep enjoying my babies!

  2. I thought that *I* was a worrier.

    Mama – stop. Breathe. Otherwise they are gonna pass you by and you are gonna regret it. While having consistency in parenting is important, wearing yourself out on those days that you just can’t win is not worth the fight.

    I used to just put Charli in her room when she refused to nap. Like “fine – you don’t want to go to sleep? You will play in here quietly until the timer goes off.”

    Sometimes she passed out on her own, sometimes she didn’t.

    I wish I could come help.

    1. Jaja, I think I take the cake when it comes to pointless worrying.

      And I know. I can count on one hand how many times I’ve actually struggled to get her down for a nap but trying to take the bottle away was what caused the breakdown. She loves playing in her room and sleeping on a big girl bed, but I need to remember that she’s barely 18 months. She’s got time to grow.

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